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Just days after John Mellencamp and her supermodel wife Elaine announced their plans to divorce after 20 years of marriage, the singer is taking his NEW relationship with Meg Ryan public!

We've spotted the new couple out and about in New York City every day for the past few days holding hands, shopping, enjoying their new-found love.

But the question is ... will Meg be criticized for stealing away another woman's man (as we know, it's usually "other woman" in these situations who's villanized, not the man who's clearly acting with free will)? Is she the next LeAnn Rimes?