The media are breaking down every detail of the TomKat break-up, and here’s what they’re saying.

A source tells People:

    "Her inner circle has been planning this and switching out cell phones since she was in China [in mid-June]. When new cell phones arrived, then nobody could reach her. Her old best friends from last week don't have her new number, no email. She's unreachable."

Katie, 33, had rented a New York City apartment in June, and has since been staying there. The source adds:

    "[Tom] knew that she moved there, but [he thought it was] for different reasons. She was talking to Tom on the phone up until last week saying, 'I love you.' She said she moved there to drive into the underground garage. It was the first phase of getting everything out of the house, and that's why she was able to say she's moving without giving an indication that she was going to divorce him."

Her father, Martin, reportedly helped her clear all belongings from her previous NYC apartment that she shared with Cruise.

Tom, who's been working in Iceland on his film Oblivion, celebrated his 50th birthday this week in LA while Katie and Suri, 6, stayed behind in NYC. A source tells Us Weekly that he "begged her[Katie] to come to Iceland for one last try at reconciliation."

The source adds that the two stars recently had a "huge fight," but Tom "was confident he could talk her out of it and keep her with him."

Holmes filed for divorce last Thursday after five years of marriage to Cruise. She is seeking sole legal custody of their 6-year-old daughter, Suri.