j-lopez-instyle-460.jpgcover-instyle-300x400.jpgAnd looks absolutely fabulous while doing it!

Jennifer Lopez covers InStyle's September 2012 issue, and the 43-year-old singer/actress/mother opens up to the magazine about her personal life.

On finding love, J. Lo says, "The most important quality the man in my life should have is that he is sweet. I like the good guys … The hard part is that you never stop believing in love. You never stop. But that’s also the best part. You never stop believing, and you never, ever give up.”

So what about her highly-publicized split with husband Marc Anthony? When asked how she handles the hard times, J. Lo replies, "I live by the mantra that God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle. It’s not until something bad or difficult happens that you really get to grow. And then you realize that those difficult moments, the times when you feel pain, are when you do a lot of your growing. You realize: There’s no reason to be terrified of things. Either way I’m going to be OK.”

On raising twins Max and Emme, she says, “Of course, I’m the same as any parent. I feel the pressures of wanting to be a great parent and of wanting to do right by my children. I feel the pressure of knowing you can’t be perfect even though you want to be. One thing I’ve learned: Being a mom, or a dad, is the most important job there is. It doesn’t matter who you are. You have to embrace it for everything that it is.”

And speaking of her kids, J. Lo seems to think her young daughter is a superstar in the making! “When I was maybe 15 or 16, I took a class at a modeling agency," she says. "But mostly I think my ability [to photograph well] is innate. And it’s funny because I see that my daughter, Emme, has it too — that something special. She knows how to play for the camera."

Think she'll follow in mom's famous footsteps?