LOS ANGELES, California (X17online) - Jon Gosselin says he's not the reason his marriage to Kate ended.

In fact, he tells InTouch Weekly he was completely caught off guard when Kate told him she wanted a divorce.

"I am done," Jon says Kate told him. "You are going to live your life and I am going to live my life," she said. He goes on to tell the magazine that he was hoping to work things out but Kate didn't want to. That's when he says he decided to move on with his life.

Here's Jon's side of the story:On why Kate wanted to split:

I think she initiated the split because she wanted a career. Maybe I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do, and she was going to move on regardless. I said, "Are you sure about this?"

On if Jon tried to work things out:

Yes, I asked, "What do I have to do to mend the relationship? What did I do wrong?" I was beating myself up about it. So I read a lot of books about personalities, like The Five Love Languages. Throughout the marriage, I felt like my personality had changed a lot. In December, I went to therapy. I asked Kate to come, but she didn’t want to. She said, “If you have a problem, go fix it."

He also cleared up his current dating status. He makes it clear that his focus is on 22-year-old party girl Hailey Glassman.

On his first relationship after the split:

[It was with] Hailey — it started around May. She is the polar opposite of Kate. It’s really different. I feel good about myself and people see my good qualities. I’m not being put down. If I want to go out with my friends, Hailey says, “Oh, go out.” I’m not used to that. I was used to, "No, no, it’s your fault." Sometimes I ask Hailey permission, like I used to do with Kate, and she says, "You don’t have to ask permission.” I was used to living like that, and now it’s like a breath of fresh air. You can have a balanced relationship but also spend time with your friends.

On when he'll introduce Hailey to his 8 kids:

I think it would have to be after the divorce is finalized. I can’t just show up with Hailey. I think we all need a little routine in our lives. Right now, it’s helter-skelter. Once there is a routine, we’ll start off slowly, like going out to dinner. We are dealing with eight different personalities, and they will each handle it in different ways. They may never be comfortable.

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